Recently, I met a guy who told me that waiting until marriage is a little bit extreme (I wouldn't want to get married to someone before I have sex with her, that could turn out into a not so fun surprise) because it can push one getting married a bit faster than you should. However, waiting until you know someone enough is fine.
To my wildest surprise this guy is a Christian and
goes to one of those popular churches in town and he is also a worker in the
church. He said “Sex is good and is
better for my mental health. Knowing that I am sexually compatible with a woman
before signing that paper is important to me” He also said holding off on getting physical is ok while casual dating is one thing,
being totally abstinent before marriage is ridiculous. Hmmm
(Not to say that these guys weren't committed to me at all... but we still had a lot to learn about each other.) And then the breakups of these relationships, though I knew they were for the best, during the breakups I felt damaged… way worse than my breakup with a man I was never intimate with (and who is the only ex I can genuinely see as a friend today).
Considering what the bible says about our body being the temple of the Holy Spirit, I’ve been respecting myself, knowing that sex would be off the table throughout any dating process. I guess abstinence could help some single ladies out there depending on your believes, to feel more comfortable with dating and at the same time really take your time getting to know a guy … and it might protect you from some of the pain of breakups, contacting disease, unwanted pregnancy and ......watch this video below.
Never harm or cheat a Christian brother in this matter by violating his wife, for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives. (NLT). And Ephesians 5:3 stated that Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God's people. (NLT).
Hebrews 13:4 highlighted that marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled. Marriage was designed to deposit unique honour on man and woman. Yet from Hebrews 13:4, we see that God attaches a condition for honour; the bed must be undefiled. Sexual immorality is what defiles marriage bed. Whether you are married or not, engaging in sexual relationship is deeper than what meets the eyes. Blood covenant is involved.
The advantage of a strong faith in God is that it keeps us highly principled in the face of adversity. Marital happiness is, or should be, more about shared goals, dreams and temperament than anything else. Intercourse after marriage would then eventually become very good under these circumstances because the mind is the most important sex organ... and when there is a will there is a way.
That's why when we pray as a Christian believer God revealed people to us the way that they are. I know we can’t make mistakes if we truly lay our foundation on a solid rock who’s Jesus Christ our Lord and personal saviour. I'm not advertising Jesus Christ but building a relationship with him first is paramount.
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