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Saturday, 31 January 2015

Unethical behaviour:When was the last time you cheated?

Probably you let your eyes wander during an exam or you copied a friend’s course work without his/her knowledge. It could be that you rounded up numbers on an expenditure report. You may have used a cunning or cleverness to get an advantage over your little ones because they can't defend themselves. 

Stripping away these probabilities, millions of people all over the world are guilty of this unethical behaviour at one point or another in their life time. Some people may have felt great or justify themselves because they think as long as they did not hurt anyone is ok to cheat. Those who cheated generally felt excited, self-righteousness and a sense of superiority after their deed.

Is cheating a good moral norm or socially accepted? Why did people pang of conscience for not listening to their inner moral authority, “should” voice? Had people deceived themselves, justifying or underestimating cheating? Should they be feeling good because they were not caught? 

Take it or leave it there's quite a bit of cheating these days among younger generation. ... And often these efforts start at Universities because some students works at night to survive and they might not be able/find it easy to achieves a good grade….. at the risk of been caught cheating.  Some student cheated a lot by faking it, some even pay expert to do their course work for them.

For example, during my University days most of us have to work in a team, to solve problem on subjects such as accounting, business law, and business strategies with someone who was just pretending to be a team member. The fake team member would report the outcomes but no actual team member complained. And again, they felt just fine about it.

The fact that people feel satisfied after cheating is distressing, because there is impassioned reinforcement of the behaviour, meaning they could be more likely to do it again and again......

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Friday, 30 January 2015

You Came To My Rescue (Your love came down)

Glory to God in the highest for His love endures for ever (Psalm 107:1) I thank God for giving me the understanding and the ability to grasp this song that was sang by Christy Nockels.

I'm forever grateful to God for His love over my life. I join the Psalmist to sing, I love the Lord, for he heard my voice; he heard my cry for mercy. Because he turned his ear to me, I will call on him as long as I live….(116:1).”

If It hadn't been for His love and mercy, what would have become of me? If you and I can think deeply of what He has done, stilling doing and many more that shall be done-we all will exalt Him deeply (Phil 4:6).

Verse 1
Freedom is a song I sing, I can't contain the joy You bring, 
All because of Your great love, Now I live
I was dead, but now I breathe, Awaken to Your grace so free, 
In the power of Your cross, Now I live

Salvation, my freedom, You gave Your all for me, 
Forever You made a way for me

And You came to my rescue, You came to my rescue Calling on Your name,
Calling on Your name, Love came down, You came to my rescue, You came to my rescue, Calling on Your name, Calling on Your name, Love came down, Your love came down, Your love came down, Your love came down

 Verse 2
 You're the light in the darkest night, You lead me through the storm and fire
 When all around my hope gives way, You're my rock
 You taught me how to sing Your song, You've overwhelmed me with Your love
 You set my feet to dancing now,You're my God

Do you ever feel like nobody likes you or really cares


Do you ever feel like nobody likes you? I feel that way sometimes, too. I think it's natural to want people to like you. I mean, who doesn't want friends? But I struggle with wanting everyone to like me. And when they don't, it's easy for me to feel bad about myself.

When I was in primary school, primary six to be precise, I used to have this big group of friends, and in that group, there's one boy who hangs out mostly with the girls. Now I was raised with sisters, and I usually feel more comfortable hanging around with girls than with boys. And most of the time, girls feel comfortable hanging out with me, too. So I was starting to feel kind of hurt that the girls were hanging out with this guy and not with me because I kind of think, I am brilliant, nice, cool and fun to be with.

One day, it really started to bother me. I crawled in my bed and just started crying. I was like, "What's wrong with me? Why doesn't everyone want to be around me? Am I just not good enough? Am I just not likable?" I came up with all these reasons why people wouldn't want to hang out with me as much as I want. For instance, I have a strong personality, and I can be very passionate. I'm also very open, and I'll say what's on my mind. That's not always the best thing. Openness is good, but sometimes I'd be better off keeping my mouth shut. I figured if I changed my personality, people might like me better.

The day after my crying session, I decided I would try to be sweet and quiet—to be the girl everyone would love. But that just wasn't me.  Something is not right, And I thought, this is nonsense. It finally came to me that this whole thing wasn't about me. People want to be with who they want to be with and I can’t force people to be with me all the time. Those girlfriends of mine weren't choosing to not be around me. They didn't hate me. They were just hanging out with another person. That's the way life works and that’s the way it goes.

I guess what I've learned is that not everyone is going to love me. Not everyone is going to want to be around me all the time. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me. And it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. People are just different. Sure there are things about me that I need to work on. But I don't have to try to be everyone's best friend. I only need to be the person God made me to be.

If you are someone like me, all I can say is, please stop beating and condemning yourself, God created you and love you just the way you are. However, if you are too open and abrupt just like me, you might need to bridle your tongue at times. See what the word of God says in the book of first Timothy 2:9-15-  Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works……… 

Yes, self-control is the key. I only need to be the person God has made me to be by controlling myself (mouth, thought and action) through the help of the Holy-spirit. Yes, myself because in Christ I live, move and have my being. My life should be Christ like.

May God help us all and have a nice day!

AMS:Check Your HEART!!!

 Last year December, I was asking God for  instruction and direction on a particular situation and the question I asked God was – God what must I do for you to change this situation that stand as a stumbling block in my life? The answer was, your heart must be fixed on me.  Jeremiah 29:13 to 14 says that: You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you, declares the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations and all the places where I have driven you, declares the Lord, and I will bring you back to the place from which I sent you into exile.

At the beginning of January 2014, I was discussing some stuff with one of my family friend and I asked her to pray with me. And she said check your heart! I was really angry and I though why will she say something like that to me, after all I only ask her to pray with me. Or did she think I've backslide? I took it too personal, for days I was pondering on those three words (Check your heart) and again and again the word started echoing in my ears. Just of resent I begin to understand the message she was trying to pass across to me.

In Mark 7:21-23: Jesus pointed out the fallen condition of our hearts “From within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man unclean.”

You see, I may not understand my own hearts, but God does. He “knows the secrets of the heart” (Psalm 44:21). Jesus “knew all men, and had no need that anyone should testify of man, for He knew what was in man” (John 2:24-25). Based on His knowledge of the heart, God can judge righteously: “I, the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give every man according to his ways, According to the fruit of his doings” (Jeremiah 17:10).

Our heart is the core of our being, and the Bible sets high importance on keeping our hearts pure: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23).

The woman with the issue of blood had her heart fixed on Jesus and the fountain of blood coming out of her body for years dried up during an encounter with God. She didn't mind the filthy smell that was oozing out of her, in the midst of multitude that were following Jesus-all she wanted was her healing (Mark 5:25-29). Until our heart is right with Him, we will keep attracting garbage.

In the book of Mark 10:46-52. I can hear the blind Bartimaeus said, “If I don’t get the attention of Jesus today, I may not have the opportunity again.” So he screamed, “Jesus, the son of David, have mercy on me.” On seeing his heart (Bartimaeus), Jesus stood still to change his story. When He sees your heart beat for Him, He’ll stand to reverse your case. Jesus said to him, “your faith has made you well.”

The morale of the whole story is that the heart is the spiritual part of us where our emotions and desires dwell. This simply means wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.

May God help us by His grace to prepare our heart and to set our face like a flint, to study to show ourselves approved to God in 2015.  Amen! 

Stay blessed!

AMS:Does the woman always has to pay the price???

It hurts me so bad. to see our Nigerian female singer dressing repulsive, naked and behaving badly. Modest dressing brings beauty and class and I believe that when a lady expose her body unnecessarily, it is neither class nor trend; rather, it is as a result of a low self-esteem. 

Some Nigerian female celebrity thinks people will notice them and sell more album when they expose their body cheaply. Total misconception!!

Well, we all knew Nigeria’s are so good in learning borrowed cultures. Culture is the savoury reputation of every nation; must we throw away our culture for overseas cultures?

I notice that female singers who has no other talent than singing and dancing are the one who dress half naked or fully naked on stage while rotating their hips provocatively like a whore  and opening their inner compartments for the whole wide world to see.  

Nigerian female should emulate Emelie Sande, Adele, Asa, Oyenka  Onwenu, Rebecca Ferguson, Mary Mary, Lara George and Nneka. Now these are all talents and they are making it big. Money, money, money! 

If the pictures here are appropriate then the world has no meaning. Can we ever see wrong and say its wrong

The sex you're selling its not yours…’s God’s gift.

The body you have………it’s also not yours. It’s Gods.

The time and energy you have……….guess who gave you? God

The breath of life that you're making nonsense with…….guess who it returns to? God

Sex is from God believe it or not …….not from worshipping the devil or believing his lies. Godly people can do all sorts and more in the privacy of their bedroom without offending those who are not married or in relationships. I just can't get my head around this naked ambition notice me altitude of Nigerian celebrity nowadays.

Why are you ladies taking God’s gift and using it to taunt and disrespect Him? He gives the breath of life, He gives health, He gives wealth. There’s no good thing in worshipping the devil…… the end you all shall believe but I pray it will never be too late.

Pretending like their conscience doesn’t speak to them...... God is watching..... 

Friday, 23 January 2015

“No working, No marrying! Wisdom is the principal....

Since when did it become God's will to marry a lazy man who brags about getting dough from the government or his daily bread from his mother or friends? In my own opinion--A man who derives joy in owing his house rent  and willingly disable himself because of laziness is not worthy of finding Favour from God (a.k.a Wife).

Sam is not searching for a job but won’t stop saying," God will do it for me someday." I find it very difficult to understand this way of life. What has really surprised me is the foolishness that's been exhibited by Sister Mary who is getting ready to marry this lazy man. Mary saw fire and she is getting ready to enter into it. Hoping that she'll quench the fire while in it. What a pity!

At the beginning of creation we saw God as a creator, the creator of Heaven and earth and everything that is in it. Jesus came, we saw Him as a worker too, He was trained as a carpenter in the small town of Nazareth and Joseph His earthly father spent time teaching him the trade as well as providing spiritual training. Jesus is very often described as working and being taught by Joseph in his carpenter's shop. This was an inherited occupation Jesus performed before going into His ministry. Abraham came, and at 75 years of age, we still saw him working
as the head of a semi-nomadic clan of herdsmen, who became a successful and prosperous rancher and shepherd, raising livestock and farming the land. Isaac and Jacob also came, and we saw them as workers. Peter in the New Testament was a fisherman along with his brother Andrew.
Now, who are you going to resemble, going about idling?

Brother beware idleness is a self-inflicted curse. There is no future for the idle in the kingdom. I'm sure you all know what the bible says about a lazy man. II Thessalonian 3:18 says, "For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: If anyone will not work, neither shall he eat."

If a lazy man must not eat, then who says a lazy man must get married? I don't get it. Yet Mary said that this lazy bone is God's choice. Why are you deceiving yourself Sister Mary? Hear what Proverb 10: 4 states, "He who has a slack hand becomes poor, but the hand of the diligent makes rich.

I will say it and say it again my sister “No working, No marrying Him.” Don’t let anybody pressure you to say it will be better or is good to suffer with a man or two shall chase ten thousand. If two shall chase ten thousand where is his own one thousand? Please don’t fall for people that water down the Word of God.

I can see the reason behind Sam’s poverty-laziness syndrome. The scriptures cannot be broken. It's high time we stopped deceiving ourselves with "God said this, God said that" Or I received or I had a dream He is the one.  Since when did you become He that find……., Haba Sister Mary are you He or she? The dreams and visions most people have can't be seen in the scripture. If it's from God, examples will be located in the bible. The Word of God is God's will. We must stop deceiving ourselves. Children of God, please stop gobbledygook!

If the dreams/visions is not according to His Word, then it's not from God.
My friend (s), please know the mind of God concerning a relationship before getting into one. There is danger in marrying the wrong person. 
The greatest mistake a person can make in his or her entire life is to marry the wrong person. Choosing a wrong woman or man is a bite from a Cobra snake. Its venom won’t just blind you but will kill you. We have been made to understand that approximately 80 % of people that receive a bite from a cobra snake will eventually die from the medical complications arising from the bite. A wrong choice of spouse is death to the spirit. A majority of people are suffering today for the wrong choice they made yesterday or some years back. Don’t do it! It’s a destiny killer. Marrying a wrong man/woman speaks death and destruction.

Some inquisitive mind (Lol) might say, “Why is she talking like this? Is she a victim?” Hmmm, “No”. I’m not a victim but I was close to settling down with the wrong person. I thought deeply and made up my mind to cut off the relationship. All my life I have always been looking for Love and always saw myself as having a nice big wedding and marrying someone who I will grow old with and have children and eventually grand children with. BUT unfortunately for me none of those things has happen yet. I looked for Love in all the wrong places, and I am still single. I am not bitter about this because I have set my face like a flint and I am waiting on God. I have also come to a place in my life where I do not have to look in vain while waiting. What I am doing now is waiting on the Lord and figuring out His purpose for me while I am still here on Earth. 

One thing I realize is that in life, when we stop thinking, we may start sinking, if we are by ourselves I meant without the help of the Holy Spirit because nowadays most eligible bachelor and spinsters out there are overwhelmed with the fun of today that they have sold their tomorrow for Pottage. Ask Esau, he’s in the best position to tell you. Do you remember that he sold his birth right to Jacob for Bread and Pottage (Gen 35: 29-34)?

Please don’t sell your destiny for the deceit of the Devil. It good to enjoy the fun and grace what the present has to offer but a vision into the future is glorious. I decided to take a thought trip into the future and I said to myself,” Alaba, if you continues in this relationship, you will be a divorcee or single parent in the future.” It didn't take me long to arrive at a decision that will project me into a healthy destiny. I broke off the connection. I ran for my dear life. I made a choice because I don’t want what I saw, felt, experienced, heard and knew/know. I can't change Him. No! I am not his creator and he is not my MAN. At the same time God loves him.

Was he a Christian? Yes He was. Was he from a good home? Yes he was. Was the present with the person good? Yes it was. Then why did you leave him? I left because the plan and the purpose of God for my life must be fulfilled. I also left because I don’t want to deprive my generation of what I should be and I made a choice to be like what Faith can give me (A man after God’s heart).

Praise God! Halleluyah! I ran for my dear life in spite of pleas. I thank God every moment for giving me a brain. May I just say this? Some of the issues we have in the aspect of man and woman relationship or courtship does not requires prayer. Most of them require a deep thought. People perish for lack of lack of knowledge.

Ladies and gentlemen, God hasn’t given us brain for decoration-we need to make use of it now. Heir of Salvation, I can now join the psalmist to say, “My soul has escaped as a bird from the snare of the fowlers; The snare is broken, and I have escaped….124:7”

Seek God’s mind before you fall in and fall out of love. Remember that His thoughts are higher than our thoughts and His ways are higher than our ways (Isa 55:9). God is your Creator-He knows what is best for you.

Catch you later J

Sincerely yours!

Alaba M Saliu

Thursday, 22 January 2015

AMS: Happy New Year to all my blog readers

When life gives you 100 reasons to be Worry and Cry in 2015, show life that you have 1000 reasons to be Grateful and Smile. 

Handle 2015 with Confidence and Faith. 

Keep the Faith and drop the Fear.
Happy New Year to all my blog readers!